The great thing is when I do these things often all the more mundane tasks become so much more enjoyable, maybe not enjoyable but bearable. However, my happiness is quickly robbed when I step outside my bubble of people and things that make me happy, and my instinct is to quickly retreat back to happy. Is this childish, maybe it means I can’t cope with the world, am I serving my life purpose by just wrapping myself in happy? Does happy pay the bills and put food on the table?
Obviously there are things out of my control that will make me unhappy and that is life, I get that, but even during these times often there are things I can do that will make me happy. Is there a rule that says as a serious adult I must consciously and actively go out and do things that make me unhappy? Do I owe it to my family, my community, my family and friends to do things that make me unhappy?
I’m not talking superficial, instant gratification happy, I’m talking about the happy that makes your body tingle with delight, you smile involuntarily, you have a peace and joy that settles on your soul, love and kindness exudes from your heart and your words are gentle and encouraging.
Our children wake up so excited each day ready to experience all the wonderful things that lay ahead of them, how many of us wake up dreading all the tasks that must get done that day?
The concept of just surrounding yourself with things and people that makes you happy sounds simple, but it isn’t, trust me, I’m trying and it is hard to find a definite line with happy on one side and unhappy on the other. There are things that are really important to me and good for me but sometimes devoting time and energy towards these things can rob me of my happiness, so what to do? There are things that I have never done before that might make me happy if I give them a try. There are people that I love that might not actually make me happy but it would make me unhappy to exclude them from my life.
It can be complex but I do know I am here on earth for a short time and I want every day to be mostly happy and enjoyable, so I am going to keep trying to wrap myself in happy and I guess I will just see how it all works out in the end.