You can relax, sit down, take a breath and seriously don't worry ... be happy.
Take time to smell the roses, slow down and look at rainbows, stop and hear the birds singing.
Laugh, smile, let the tension be released from your shoulders.
Rest assured all is well.
When Dennis Denuto says in The Castle "it’s the vibe, and…no that’s it…it’s the vibe. I rest my case". This one statement "it's the vibe" was a profound insight about the meaning of life.
Life ... it's the vibe, I rest my case.
Recently I have attended the funerals of two beautiful women who lived long loving and fruitful lives. At both funerals the thoughts and memories shared by their relatives focused on what the women loved doing, the funny and quirky, the loving and kind, the exciting and fun, the memorable moments of their life.
The people who attended were a reflection of the kind of relationships they had nurtured and treasured in their lives.
Neither funeral focused on the mundane tasks of life, nobody mentioned the things these ladies couldn't do, nobody talked about the people who didn't love them.
Nobody mentioned the size of their house, or the type of car they drove, nobody mentioned how much money they had in the bank. At both funerals the careers of the women was mentioned but in relation to how their healing and teaching qualities featured in all aspects of their life, not how many hours they spent earning money. The Committees both these women served on were mentioned, but not the hours they spent at meetings or fundraising but rather the valuable contribution they helped make to their community.
Nobody mentioned the lawn mowing, the dishes, the washing, the vacuuming, the bill paying, the crying, the worrying, the days nothing got done, the bad fashion choices or the bad hair days ... nobody.
It gave me great hope that on that day, when our friends and relatives gather to celebrate our life and share their memories of us, it is all about 'the vibe' of our life. The guiding principals we use to make choices, the way we treat people, the way we love and what we do for fun and the trips we take and adventures we have.
People remember us when we are happy, doing the things we love, being with the people we love and when we are being our most authentic self, this is memorable.
It is our hobbies, our creative pursuits, what we do with our free time, how we speak to people, the kind and generous things we randomly do, these things are what are remembered.
So if we want our funeral, and ultimately our life, to be good we need to spend time investing in the things that matter. Do more of what makes us smile, do more of what makes our heart sing, spend more time with the people we love.
Use our time on earth to plant seeds of love.
In the Bible, Jesus says "I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly", John 10:10.
So there you have it, live your life abundantly, love deeply, have fun, be silly, dream, imagine, do all you can to enjoy the gift of life, for it is a gift.
It's the vibe that matters, everything else is subaltern, inferior, lesser, petty. I rest my case.